About the ones that break your heart

Forgive.

Sometimes people do things that remind you of situations and times you’d rather forget. They make decisions that remind you that you’re not really their blood but just a “friend”. They break the confidence and trust you have in them by sharing your secrets; they lie to you; they push you away when all you ever wanted to do was love them.

I think the really bad part is when you start to behave badly because, you claim to be “giving as good as you get.” That is just wrong, you cannot and should not change who you are because someone does not appreciate you. Hard as it is, you must show compassion and love, even when they least deserve it because that’s the best time to really show love and compassion. If a person smothers you with love, it’s easy to love them back but then where’s the sacrifice in that? What sets you apart is being able to love someone when they do not treat you well, then you’ll really be doing something special.

That being said, you must also be able to make the distinction as to when a relationship becomes toxic and is draining you. You must be able to take care of yourself, you must know when to walk away hard as it may seem. There are relationships that are no good for you, that friend that’s always making you do things you know in your heart aren’t right; that friend that’s always making you angry and bitter; that friend who’s always saying negative things about you; that friend who is quick to believe the worst about you… these are all toxic and you need to let those sort of people go. We all form attachments but the time comes when you have to do what’s best for you, letting them go with no grudge within.

It’s easy to say all these things, the hard part is actually doing it. The trick is to take it one day at a time, letting go prayerfully.